DON’T ABUSE YOUR BODY

It may not be evident, but wearing tight undergarments compresses the testicles which produce the hormone testosterone, lowering its production. Low levels of the hormone lead to low libido. Use of anabolic steroids too adversely affects the libido, as also other forms of abuse. In smokers, nicotine damages the arterial lining, making it attract cholesterol, thus narrOwing the arteries. Therefore, the blood flowing to the sex organs is less, and affects the erection in men. Many believe that alcohol aids arousal. The reality is that alcohol might initially relax you enough to create some sexual arousal, but excessive consumption actually results in lowering the sexual drive.

Alcohol affects the liver function adversely, and the hormone testosterone is activated in the liver. Moreover, if you suffer from borderline diabetes, alcohol makes it worse. An unhealthy diet comprising oily, high-caloric, sugar-laden foods could result in high cholesterol which narrows arteries, restricts blood flow and affects sexual performance. If one is suffering from hypertension (high blood pressure) due to wrong food habits and obesity resulting from the same and uses anti-hypertensive medication, one might suffer from the side-effect of a lowered libido. Keeping late nights and parrying till the wee hours of the morning result in erratic sleep patterns and accumulated fatigue, which adversely affect libido.

FOR IMPROVED LIBIDO, YOU NEED:

· Adequate sleep.

· Healthy diet.

. Abstinence from excessive smoking and drinking.

· A fitness regime.

. To avoid steroids and anti-depressants.

DIRECT YOUR ENERGIES WISELY

Due to stressful lifestyles, psychic energies are also diverted into emotions like anxiety and depression. If one’s energies are locked up in worrying about performance evaluations on the job, competing with colleagues for promotions, and being on the lookout for better opportunities, not much psychic energy is available to flow into sex. High conflict levels between the husband and wife too result in stressful emotions, leading to lowered libido. Use of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications to combat stress is another cause.

Both investment banker Andrew and mutual fund manager David were distressed by their low libido. While the adrenalin rush that came from the handling of monies was so great that, to Andrew, sex paled in comparison, David was so stressed with market fluctuations, which swayed his clients’ fortunes, that he was left mentally and emotionally fatigued. Today double-income couples find no leisure to unwind and connect as a couple. Any time together is spent on household chores, planning home/car loan payments, discussing economics, or work-related issues. Therefore, the psychic energies of both are locked in preoccupations other than connecting sensually, thus lowering libido in both.

TO ADD THE SIZZLE BACK:

· Consciously plan a weekend getaway.

· Make a pact to not discuss work during the holiday.

· Make time for each other, at least a few minutes every day in the morning and evening.

· Cut down on unnecessary chores to get more free time together.

STOP BEING A SUPERWOMAN

Malvika was excessively preoccupied with her duties towards her in-laws and extended family and coping with a hectic social life, throwing parties and attending them too. She was also anxious about her role as a mother and her children’s performance at school. Parents who have moved away from naturally loving and instinctive parenting become emotional wrecks who are torn between showcasing their kids and being unconditionally loving parents. With psychic energies being diverted towards stressful parenting, low libido is a definite fall-out.

FOR STRESS-FREE PARENTING AND BETTER SEX:

· Focus on living sane, balanced and loving inner and outer lives.

· Don’t get bogged down by parenting pressures.

· Don’t pile too much on your plate.

· Do your best, forget the rest.

· Give up trying to please everybody.

· Be kind to yourself.

OTHER CAUSES OF LOW LIBIDO

VOWS OF CELIBACY

People who surrender to the philosophies of some spiritual cults that encourage you to take the vow of celibacy, could gradually start experiencing low libido as they sublimate their urges in prayer, rituals and service-oriented activities. The bottom line is that wherever you channelise your psychic energies, they will gradually flow in that direction.

PSEUDO LOW LIBIDO

There is also the entity of a pseudo low libido, which is only reported by the partner of one who ‘claims’ to have a low libido. Banker Susan reported a virtually non-existent sexual life between her and her husband. Her husband Roger reported that he did not have any sexual urge ‘with his wife’ and therefore did not initiate sex. His words ‘with his wife’ gave him away. Roger only ’seemed’ to have a low libido, which was not the reality. He was obviously resorting to other outlets for his sexual urges. He later admitted to self-pleasuring with fantasies of other women, which he claimed gratified him more than the ’sexual exercise’ with his wife.

SELF-PLEASURING AND PORNOGRAPHY

The internet is getting many people hooked to a lifestyle of sex chatting and self-pleasuring by viewing porn sites. Also, there is a remarkable increase in affairs at the workplace, people travelling on the job and using ‘escort services’ in foreign lands. A hectic work schedule with one foot at the airport and one at home is also getting people engaged more in self-pleasuring in fantasy with or without the aid of porn, as a routine, as it is ‘more convenient’. These are not actual cases of low libido but only perceived as such by their partners, as they engage their libido elsewhere.

All in all, your lifestyle is responsible for your low libido. Only a wholesome change in your lifestyle can help you restore balance in every aspect of your life. So, identify the cause, take corrective measures and rediscover your sexual pleasures.

It is with this in mind that a jelly rubber love aid could be the ideal fit for the first time user because they are affordable and afford you to experiment with out burning a hole in your pocket. The jelly rubber dildo is a good all round love aid.

At the cheaper end of the market the jelly rubber dildo does come in a wide range of colours, shapes and sizes. They do have their fans who love the resilient bouncy feel to them.

The only real positive to jelly rubber love aid is that they are inexpensive to purchase. It means that they are then great for experimentation so that a woman can find out what she needs from a dildo regarding shape and size before purchasing an expensive dildo that isn’t right and obviously can’t be returned.

It must be noted that jelly sex toys being made from inferior quality means that some to contain phthalates which is a chemical that has been linked to health problems in other products and happenstances. It is with this in mind that it is recommended that you use a latex condom when using a rubber jelly dildo.

It is advisable not to use oil based lubricants when using rubber jelly dildos because this may well cause damage to the sex toy. Instead it is better to use either a water or silicone based lubricant.

Dildos can really work to improve sex for the both couples in a relationship or just help the individual get the most from self pleasure.

There are many dildos on the market and with the choice of material, colours and shapes being vast. The silicone and Cyberskin dildo are a at the top end of the dildo market in terms of price and it maybe advisable for first time dildo users to experiment with cheaper dildo options before splashing out on an expensive toy.

The cheapest are usually those made of jelly rubber and start at around $10. This way you can find out what shape and size is the most suitable before moving onto more expensive products.

A harness dildo isn’t about substitution of the penis but allows couples to bring new ideas and techniques into their love-making for both partners to enjoy. It can allow the woman in a straight/gay relationship to feel the power for the first time as she lives out a fantasy of control through different types of love making. For a male who is open to suggestions he can live out a fantasy of submission. The whole idea of the harness love aid is to open up the bedroom to experimentation and this leads to great fun.

If you feel a dildo and sex toy harness maybe ideal for you then I would suggest three different criteria that you may want to look out for when considering the right one:-

1. The dildo needs to have a wide flare base (for safety if things get a bit heated).

2. Check the dildo is firm and flexible enough for harness use.

3.The dildo has at least average penis size i.e. at least 5.5 inches

When you are considering a harness love aid you don’t need to use the whole length but a short dildo can be very frustrating as you may end up not getting the desired penetration that you and your partner want. Firmer dildos are recommended for harness use. The ideal choice is the silicone option if they are affordable and in your budget.

The use of a dildo in love making can take the pressure of a man to perform all the time and he can still satisfy his partner whilst both couples can have fun. Dildos are great for both self-pleasure and also as an aid to sex and should be part of any couples sex life. Yes dildos can benefit a couple’s sex life and can start from as little as $10 for a jelly rubber dildo. There is a whole world of experimentation out there and it is through the use of love aids that couples can achieve total satisfaction.

Want to keep your libido sizzling? May be it does not need any more polishing. You have attained the honors in your sex life but wait until you hear these questions. They might awaken your senses. Little things you say or do tell a lot about the level of your sex life and thus the success of your relationship. Healthy sex life is the real meaning of a good marriage or any other relationship whether long term or short term. You can be a king in bed if you test how your sex attitude is and maintain it or improve it. After a grueling and hectic day what do you feel like doing? having a bubble bath, enjoying a glass of wine or some serious undisturbed sleep?

If this is the case you need to know some facts may be they can boost your libido. The hormones released during sex relieves headache and mild depression. Watching your favorite indicates you need some more sex awareness hence your libido is low. If you feel like going for games you must be having the best libido. That athletic body cannot allow you to sleep without having sex. The flow of blood is known to be good for circulation of sex hormones you will be yearning for more every day all the time. By the way what would you rather do if you suddenly found some free thirty minutes out of your busy schedule? Get something down your stomach, do some online stock exchange transactions or lock the door for some quickie with a lover? Sex is fun and i know good sex life can give you fun do a lot of it.

Another important question to help you gauge your sex life: what do you focus on during sexual encounters? If you usually think about the load of work you have to clear, it is so unfortunate. It is even worse if you focus on how your breasts are scarred or how you thighs are sagging. This shows that you are uncomfortable with your body and uncomfortable with sex too. This affects your sex life in a great way. Forget about it and concentrate on the pleasure you are giving or receiving. If your sex life is superb, you should be focused on the mourns and screams from your partner.

If your sex life is good you will be innovative, ready for risks. This creates sexual excitements to amazing levels. What is your view on sex in the showers? Is it dangerous since it is slippery? No, that should not be the right attitude for an exciting sex life. It is even more funny if you look at it as water conservation since you are showering together. Life is not all about saving. Your sex life is stunning if you look at it as the ultimate sexual fantasy which sends you over to the edge. What is your perfect description of your last time together? Were you glad since you finally crossed it off in your to-do-list? If it is so, your sex life is going down the drain if drastic measures are not taken but if you screamed until your neighbors complained you are doing okay.